I could never be a feminist. Don't get me wrong, I believe in equal rights, but I always feel like feminism tries to take it further than that. The feminists always seem to want to go one better - they don't want equality, they want superiority.
Some of them (not all - some are level headed, reasonable women) seem to make the issue worse. They get up on their soap boxes and bang on about how life isn't fair, they don't get this opportunity or that opportunity, they have periods, no one takes them seriously etc etc and I can't help but think they sound like whiny spoilt brats. And I'm saying that as a woman so I can appreciate how men don't take their issues too seriously.
On one hand, they are right to an extent, life isn't always fair, but you just suck it up and get on with it. Challenge it with specific examples, and offer solutions, don't just make general statements to be seen to be on board. I'm sure there's times when men feel like life isn't fair, but if they dare speak up, the feminists shut them down because of course their issues are always worse/more serious.
For example, if a woman is upset or angry and a man asks if she's on her period, yes its annoying, maybe even degrading but by over reacting instead of just saying no you are kind of proving his point about women being a little hysterical.
Sometimes, men can't win. If they hold a door open for a woman, they are chauvinistic pigs. If they slam it in her face, they are ignorant. The man holding the door is equally likely to have held it if another man was behind him. Is it so hard to just say thank you, the same way you would if a woman held a door for you?
I don't really buy into all this sisterhood stuff either. A woman is as likely to stab you in the back as a man is. Plus, I could never be a full on feminist and stop shaving my legs and armpits, or stop wearing make up. I don't see what that achieves. If you are fully on board with the sisterhood stuff, shouldn't you support a woman's decision to embrace her femininity as equally as you would support someone who rejects social norms? Isn't that kind of the point? To choose, not be dictated to. I think its just as bad to be put down for your lifestyle choices by a woman as it is to be criticised by a man.
Ultimately, I agree that woman should be treated equally, but a misogynist is always going to be a misogynist. It doesn't matter what you say, what evidence you give, you won't change his mind. Why would you even want to waste your time trying to? Cut him from your life the same as you would any negative person and move on. Equally there are man haters out there, and you won't change their minds either, but men seem better at just shrugging their shoulders and moving on. I just feel like the time and energy invested in trying to change people's opinions could be put to better use .
Perhaps I've missed the point, or perhaps the point has become diluted as the movement grows and everyone has their own agendas.
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