Wednesday, 29 April 2015

F Is For Faking It!


Day 6 of my A to Z Challenge. F is for Faking it.


If you don't know how this works, I've posted the link back to the rules of the challenge at the end of this, along with a link to yesterday's post. If you want to read my full alphabet, just keep following the links. Each day has a link back to yesterday's post.


Think Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally. Come on girls. Who hasn't done this at some point. Maybe not in quite such a spectacular fashion and probably not in a café, but it happens. Picture the scene - your partner has had his (for want of a better expression) and now he's determined to "finish you off". You know its not going to happen tonight for whatever reason, so to save his feelings, you fake it. Its probably more of a sigh or moan than on a full on "OH MY GOD", but it does the trick. When its a one off, I really don't see the harm in it. At least I didn't until a few years ago when I had the below conversation.
It was a few years ago but it's always stuck with me. It was with a guy and its always good to get their side of these things.
He said that faking it is pointless, because there are two types of men out there.
One that just wants to get his, and couldn't care less whether you enjoyed it or not, and that's just a waste of your acting skills!
The second type though, I hadn't really thought about, but he was so right. The second type is the man who wants you to enjoy it as much as he does. Now to me, he's the one that most women would fake it for to save his feelings.
The man I was talking to pointed out that this guy wants you to enjoy it. If you fake it, he thinks you have. So he now thinks that whatever he was doing, is what you like. He will now continue to do this, and you will either have to spend the rest of your time together faking it, or have an extremely awkward conversation! Neither way seems very appealing.
So I would say, if you have any intention of seeing this guy again, it's probably best not to fake it!


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Link to rules: http://myrandommusings.blogspot.co.uk/2015/04/a-z-challenge-whos-with-me.html




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7 comments:

  1. I saw your post on Twinkle Tuesday. I love the alphabet challenge you are doing.

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    1. Thank you! I'm really enjoying it :)

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    2. Thank you! I'm really enjoying it :)

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  2. What a great post and so very true! Thanks for linking up! #MMWBH

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    1. Thank you, and thanks for hosting :)

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  3. This is so very true. Sadly, my (now ex) husband changed from a man of the second category to one in the first. It was a relief when he told me he wanted a divorce! It got to the point where I was "faking" not crying during the act. Ugh. Thanks for linking up at #TwinklyTuesday.

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    1. That's awful. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad you got out of it, and hope you are happy now.
      Thank you for hosting :)

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