People say if a relationship is worth having then you must
be willing to stand up and fight for it.I'm not sure I agree with this. Surely if the relationship really is meant to be, it wouldn't be a fight? I'm not suggesting that as soon as it gets a bit tough you just give up. What I am saying is that if a relationship feels like a constant fight, then maybe it's just not meant to be.
I think it depends on who you are fighting.
I quite like the idea of two people united, fighting the haters, the judgemental douchebags and the negative people of the world. Showing the world that love really does conquer all and nothing can come between them. That is a fight worth having.
I don't think a relationship should be a constant fight between the two people in it. Maybe it's just the wording, because I do believe in working on a relationship. Not taking each other for granted, making time for each other and so on. I also believe in compromise. No one should be "in charge" you're partners and as such, you have to have give and take.
It's normal to fight sometimes, and it often takes one of you to stand up and say we are worth it, we are good together, and we can rise above this issue.
If that is happening nearly everyday, especially if it's the same person who always gives in, then that always makes me think it's not meant to be and you're trying to force it.
Ultimately, I think when you are in a relationship, both partners should be happy. If you are not happy, then in my opinion, it isn't worth fighting for. If you are happy and its other people trying to drag you apart, then it is worth fighting for.
I think occasionally fighting for the relationship strengthens it. It shows you are invested in the other person and won't give up on them. If it is an everyday battle then I think it probably isn't meant to be and fighting for it is just drawing out the inevitable.
I think the worst scenario, is when one of you is so sure the other is "the one" you will do anything to keep them. You constantly fight for the relationship, often losing a part of yourself to adapt to the other person's needs. If this is completely one sided, then to me, that person was never the one. The one, your one true soul mate, whatever you want to call it, would feel the same about you, so you wouldn't be constantly fighting for the relationship to work, because there wouldn't be any reason to fight for it if both parties were invested in making it work.
What do you think? If you have to fight for a relationship, does that mean its forced, or does it just add to the strength of it?
