tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post8373531188578652070..comments2023-10-13T05:58:00.137-07:00Comments on Random Musings: V Is For Victim BlamingRandom Musingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-77274632249248924292015-06-26T16:03:58.254-07:002015-06-26T16:03:58.254-07:00Thank you :) It is a sad sign of the times that we...Thank you :) It is a sad sign of the times that we can't. I think it's a disservice to teenage girls if we tell them otherwise!Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-61281007653369961612015-06-26T12:11:38.081-07:002015-06-26T12:11:38.081-07:00What a great post. I agree with everything you sai...What a great post. I agree with everything you said. It's true we should be able to walk down a dark ally and wear whatever we want, when we want without fear of being attacked but sadly as you say, real life means we can't. <br />#effitfriday Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07761937908198485162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-67140352168914340172015-05-26T16:26:20.605-07:002015-05-26T16:26:20.605-07:00Thank you so much :) and thank you for hosting!Thank you so much :) and thank you for hosting!Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-53551954033286630752015-05-26T16:25:30.935-07:002015-05-26T16:25:30.935-07:00I know it would be the worst feeling - like these ...I know it would be the worst feeling - like these women aren't already traumatized enough by what's happened to them! <br />Thank you and thanks for hosting :) I will be by tomorrow, maybe a little late because my internet is going to be down for an hour or two in the morning :(Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-50902684424844381412015-05-26T15:21:01.242-07:002015-05-26T15:21:01.242-07:00What a GREAT post. Fabulous read. Thanks so much f...What a GREAT post. Fabulous read. Thanks so much for linking up with #MMWBH Debs @ Super Busy Mumhttp://www.superbusymum.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-55658173988753980142015-05-26T12:40:22.560-07:002015-05-26T12:40:22.560-07:00Our society is so judgemental and quick to blame v...Our society is so judgemental and quick to blame victims just to make sense of it all. It's just sad, wrong and we should support and help more victims. I can't even imagine something terrible happening and being blamed for something like I could have prevented it. Outrageous. Great post. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round #sharewithmeLet's Talk Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07730374182778773358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-43224406157020616092015-05-25T15:56:13.802-07:002015-05-25T15:56:13.802-07:00I can't imagine how scary it is trying to get ...I can't imagine how scary it is trying to get the balance right in educating your girls and not terrifying them to the point they never want to go out. I totally agree we have to do both - it is not an issue we can bury our heads in the sand about. I hope this post hasn't brought back bad memories for you.Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-2168866183801334282015-05-25T14:59:10.005-07:002015-05-25T14:59:10.005-07:00As a mother of two young girls and a rape survivor...As a mother of two young girls and a rape survivor, this terrifies me. I agree that it's important to both stress how to avoid dangerous situations and to support victims. It's not one or the other.<br /><br />Thanks for linking with #TwinklyTuesday.Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16780935759685443488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-54578716029883598732015-05-22T04:09:34.317-07:002015-05-22T04:09:34.317-07:00Thank you :) I agree - there's no way the vict...Thank you :) I agree - there's no way the victims in any crime should be blamed. I also think it's funny (not in a haha way) that the more personal and traumatic the crime is. the more the victim seems to be blamed! Thanks for hosting, see you next week! :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-676109959683427602015-05-22T03:59:51.142-07:002015-05-22T03:59:51.142-07:00Great post and Completely agree. As for men gettin...Great post and Completely agree. As for men getting those kind of comments...Although I think the person could have unique circumstances that might make them specifically get them...but I can say that they do. Although I think on the whole there is a gender difference in victim blaming. And a massive difference. It shouldn't happen at all! There is no blame on them at all and people need to stop doing it. Thanks for linking up with us on the #bigfatlinky hope to see you there this week Martyn Kitney https://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-6474170913717652882015-05-19T15:58:21.286-07:002015-05-19T15:58:21.286-07:00I think we have the "it won't happen to m...I think we have the "it won't happen to me" mind set a lot of the time, especially as teenagers. All you can do is educate them of the dangers and hope when it comes to it what you say resonates with them on some level. Thanks for hosting :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-66779470535579154862015-05-19T15:56:39.831-07:002015-05-19T15:56:39.831-07:00I think at one time or another, we've all put ...I think at one time or another, we've all put ourselves at risk - as you point out it's usually after a few too many drinks, and we are the lucky ones. Thanks for commenting :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-86611061856408064262015-05-19T15:55:10.528-07:002015-05-19T15:55:10.528-07:00Thank you :) It is a sad reflection of the world w...Thank you :) It is a sad reflection of the world we live in today, and until there is a radical change, we sadly can't do some of the things we should be able to. Thank you for hosting :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-10984259873481712602015-05-19T12:27:58.682-07:002015-05-19T12:27:58.682-07:00I worry a lot about some of the teenage girls I te...I worry a lot about some of the teenage girls I teach. They really don't understand the danger they can be in and so important to minimise the risk by, for example, not walking around alone at night.<br />Thanks for linking up to #SundayStars Karen (@karenjwhitlock)http://www.stoppingattwo.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-39563329853431112482015-05-19T09:36:26.703-07:002015-05-19T09:36:26.703-07:00Really thought provoking, especially today with bi...Really thought provoking, especially today with binge drinking (on both sides) where so much can happen. I'd like to think I'm fairly streetwise but I have probably been in dodgy situations where I am lucky I wasn't a victim. #twinklytuesdayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13869075488649436837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-35293626945149910402015-05-19T06:06:28.682-07:002015-05-19T06:06:28.682-07:00A really thought provoking post and I'm glad y...A really thought provoking post and I'm glad you linked it up. Victim blaming is not acceptable and I also completely agree that there are many things we should be able to do but sadly the world now dictates that there are some that we just can't. Thanks for sharing this #bigfatlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06678173105440192716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-29665951071044732352015-05-17T06:51:00.005-07:002015-05-17T06:51:00.005-07:00Good on you! I think it's very brave to talk a...Good on you! I think it's very brave to talk about your experience in the hope of helping others - that in itself is inspiring. Looking forward to checking out your blog :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-46250744892874276552015-05-17T04:04:51.120-07:002015-05-17T04:04:51.120-07:00I am now strong enough to speak out and stand up f...I am now strong enough to speak out and stand up for what I believe. So many experiences and so much to blog about! - All in a hope of inspiring and helping others! Angela x<br /><br />My recent post- "My adrenal crisis and the truth about how I feel" http://wp.me/p5XRN6-1qrAngela Milneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14710607899536687736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-14687435688135135202015-05-16T03:19:12.068-07:002015-05-16T03:19:12.068-07:00The safety of women (and everyone) has got to come...The safety of women (and everyone) has got to come first, and you are right we do need to all be together on this. And we do need to all protect each other! Thank you for stopping by :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-72276931812346430512015-05-15T20:42:09.644-07:002015-05-15T20:42:09.644-07:00This certainly was thought provoking. However I do...This certainly was thought provoking. However I don't think it is victim blaming if we remind our girls to not dress provocatively, to stay in well-lit places, and to know those they are with. That is not victim blaming. That is ensuring our daughters, mothers, sisters, etc all stay safe. We need to remember rape is not a crime of passion but a crime of anger against women. We need to band together and help each other protect each other. I am visiting on the A to Z Road Trip! Hope to see you aroundPaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-6268699401429434202015-05-15T19:27:10.184-07:002015-05-15T19:27:10.184-07:00Thank you Susan :)Thank you Susan :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-51914862980250387412015-05-15T19:09:24.539-07:002015-05-15T19:09:24.539-07:00Wow! this was quite the read. I completely agree w...Wow! this was quite the read. I completely agree with you. Great post! A great way to express itMY MEDIUM JOURNEYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545744363761205511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-68245330445653089102015-05-15T14:22:34.939-07:002015-05-15T14:22:34.939-07:00I think it's hard to find the balance between ...I think it's hard to find the balance between ensuring teenagers understand the risks and take precautions and not scaring them to the point they never want to leave the house. I'm all for feminism that works both ways and calls for equality, and I think with issues like this it is important to educate young boys too. Thanks for stopping by :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-57737807394804153002015-05-15T14:20:13.383-07:002015-05-15T14:20:13.383-07:00I think education is key - for the young women and...I think education is key - for the young women and also for the people who are responsible for dealing with the victims of these crimes. Obviously they need to find out what happened, but they need to do it in a way that doesn't sound like they are victim blaming. Thank you for stopping by :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039577309224532465.post-25444535979777308792015-05-15T14:17:10.911-07:002015-05-15T14:17:10.911-07:00You just have to hope that in the moment they reme...You just have to hope that in the moment they remember what you've told them and make the right choices. It's such a scary world for teens/children at the minute. It must be a constant worry letting them out of your sight. Thank you and thanks for hosting :)Random Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.com